When you want a pet but your partner doesn’t
If you have your heart set on bringing a pet into your life it can be an exciting decision. However, if the person you live with isn’t on board, it can become a source of friction.
Does it mean you have to let your pet owning dream go? Not necessarily. It calls for some deeper conversation and investigation.
Here are a few things to consider
Find out why your partner doesn’t want a pet
You partner may have a block that can be overcome. For example, perhaps the reason your partner is against the idea is because they don’t want the responsibility of cleaning. Is this something you can take on by yourself? Of course, you need to be realistic but perhaps all that is required is a little negotiation.
What if its something they can't help
If the reason is something more significant, such as they have a phobia of a certain animal or allergy this may require more thought - here is an article on some pets to own for allergy sufferers
. If it’s a phobia, is there another animal you could consider instead? Or could you help your partner overcome their phobia? Know that this can require the help of a professional so never just turn up with the animal and hope for the best. However, if your partner is willing, you can research ways to seek help and overcome the phobia. If it’s an allergy, have you researched the many breeds of pets that are great for allergies? Short hair breeds or hairless animals can be a way around this.
Space is a common reason for some people not wanting a pet. This is a legitimate concern. Not just for humans but for animals. Many pets need space for exercise, play and to live happy lives. So, make sure you are considering the animal’s needs and not just your own. However, if your partner won’t budge on this because they feel it will be too cramped, have you considered a smaller animal? What about fish, mice, guinea pigs or hermit crabs. Here we explore some good pets for apartments
Finally, remember that owning a pet is a long-term commitment and pets and owners will always be happier in a space where they feel welcome and loved. If your partner is adamantly against the idea, you may have to accept that pet ownership at this stage won’t be possible. If this is the case, don’t despair! There are many ways you can get your animal fix. Volunteer at an animal shelter, walk dogs in your spare time or get a casual job at a pet store.